How many people get rejected by Astarion?

Almost 100,000 players have been rejected by Astarion in the opening weekend alone, according to Larian Studios, which released the game. This high rejection rate has sparked curiosity among players, who are eager to understand the romance mechanics and approval system in Baldur’s Gate 3, and how to successfully romance Astarion without getting rejected.

Frequently Asked Questions

General Information

1. What happens if you refuse Astarion?: Gamers who stop Astarion early will get a -1 debuff to attack rolls and ability checks for the next day.
2. Why won’t Astarion romance me?: There are many times throughout the story and moments back at the campsite with Astarion that can influence his opinion of you, and if you have a negative relationship, he won’t have any interest in you when it matters.

Romancing Astarion

3. How much approval do you need to romance Astarion?: “Fair” is good enough to start the romance at the tiefling party later on, if you make the right choices at the party itself.
4. Can you romance Astarion if you don’t sleep with him?: You don’t need to sleep with him at the party, and if you get his approval high enough, he’ll proposition you on his own at some point during Act 1 when you talk to him.

Astarion’s Background and Personality

5. Should you let Astarion bite you?: Accepting Astarion’s bite improves the protagonist’s relationship with him and can lead to a deeper bond, but refusing it only results in a minor setback.
6. Can Astarion turn you?: You can ask Astarion to turn you into a sunlight-immune vampire spawn during your next Long Rest, however, he will refuse to and skirt around the subject of turning you into a full vampire.

Relationship and Approval

7. How do I raise my Astarion approval?: The player does not have to be “evil” to gain his approval, however — he approves when the player makes choices that support independence and autonomy, and when the player helps certain characters in need.
8. Should you sleep with Astarion before party?: You don’t need to sleep with him at the party, and if you get his approval high enough, he’ll proposition you on his own at some point during Act 1 when you talk to him.

Consequences and Outcomes

9. Should I let Astarion turn me into a vampire?: There is indeed the risk of death, but the risk is small, and the player character can still be revived if Astarion inadvertently kills them.
10. Is there a happy ending with Astarion?: Astarion’s Good Ending Comes With A Cost In Baldur’s Gate 3, while this gives Astarion the benefit of being free from Cazador’s control and lets him keep the others used in the ritual alive depending on dialogue choices, he’ll remain a Vampire Spawn for the foreseeable future.

Gameplay and Mechanics

11. How do you know if Astarion likes you?: As you begin to romance Astarion, you can check up his approval rating of you on the character sheet, and the goal is to gain high approval, and it’s best to gain Astarion’s approval before the Rescue Druid Halsin quest.
12. How to sleep with Astarion?: Return to a bedroll and interact with it for a decision where you can go to bed alone or with Astarion, choose Astarion and this will lead to a conversation before a passionate night with him.

Additional Tips and Information

13. Should I ask Astarion about his scars?: Apparently, you should always ask Astarion about his scar for the scar-reading scene to appear.
14. Is good approval enough to romance Astarion?: If his approval rating of you is high enough by the time you celebrate at the camp after the Save the Refugees side-quest, you’ll be able to continue your flirtationship with him at that time.
15. Is Astarion romance worth it?: Astarion’s romance has a push-pull dynamic, where he can be pleased or displeased by dialogue choices, often involving provoking and lying to other characters, and achieving a romantic ending with Astarion may have drawbacks, but it is still one of the game’s most dynamic and interesting relationships.