Can you romance Astarion if you don’t sleep with him in Act 1?

You can indeed romance Astarion without sleeping with him in Act 1, as the game allows for a variety of choices and dialogue options that can lead to a romantic relationship without requiring a physical encounter at the party. To romance Astarion, you’ll need to focus on building a strong connection with him through conversation choices and actions that increase his approval rating, which can be checked on the character sheet.

Understanding Astarion’s Romance

Building a Connection

To build a connection with Astarion, you should focus on supporting his whims, showing empathy towards his condition, and aligning with characters that he considers interesting or powerful.

FAQs

1. What triggers Astarion’s romance scene?: There are three triggers for Astarion’s romance scene: talking to the drow in Moonrise, completing Astarion’s Act II personal quest, or having very high approval with him by some point in Act II.
2. Can I romance Astarion and be good?: It is possible to achieve a good ending with Astarion, but it comes with its own baggage, and the relationship remains complex and potentially troubling.
3. How do I know if Astarion likes me?: You can check Astarion’s approval rating on the character sheet, and aim to gain high approval before the Rescue Druid Halsin quest.
4. Should I let Astarion feed on me?: Letting Astarion drink your blood will result in a Bloodless debuff, but it also raises his approval of you.
5. Can I romance Astarion later in the game?: If Astarion’s approval rating of you is high enough by the time you celebrate at the camp after the Save the Refugees side-quest, you can continue your flirtationship with him.
6. What happens if I let Astarion ascend?: Astarion will become more arrogant and power-hungry, and may even desire to subjugate the world.
7. How much approval do I need to romance Astarion?: A fair approval rating is sufficient to start the romance, but you can earn more approval in Act I and Act II.
8. When can I start romancing Astarion?: You can start romancing Astarion after completing Rescuing the Druid Halsin and the Save the Refugees side-quest.
9. Should I ask Astarion about his scars?: You should always ask Astarion about his scar for the scar-reading scene to appear.
10. Can I convince Astarion not to do the ritual?: You can persuade Astarion not to perform the ritual, but this will affect the game’s narrative consequences.
11. Does Astarion tell you he loves you?: Astarion may tell you that he loves you, but it’s essential to consider the context and his true intentions.
12. Why can Astarion be in sunlight?: Astarion can be in sunlight due to the Mind Flayer tadpole’s effects on his body, which make him immune to the usual vampire weaknesses.
13. Can you romance Astarion and Karlach?: While Karlach is not a romance option, she is open to players having intimate relationships with others, including Astarion.
14. Why won’t Astarion talk to me?: Astarion may not talk to you if you have a negative relationship or if you’ve made choices that have lowered his approval rating.
15. Can you avoid killing Alfira?: You can avoid killing Alfira by turning on non-lethal combat and using unarmed combat or melee attacks that won’t be lethal.