How to Officially Date Astarion

To officially date Astarion in Baldur’s Gate 3, you first need to gain his approval ahead of the refugee celebration, which occurs after completing the Save the Refugees side-quest, by supporting his desires, being supportive of his nature and condition, and demonstrating your power over others. This can be achieved by making choices that align with his values, such as aligning yourself with creatures of evil nature, being ruthless to people he views as weak, and showing appreciation for the fine arts.

Understanding Astarion’s Approval

Astarion’s approval can be gained by making specific choices throughout the game, and it is essential to understand what he likes and dislikes.

Gaining Approval

Gaining Astarion’s approval requires you to be supportive of his desires, align yourself with creatures of evil nature, and demonstrate your power over others.

FAQs

Here are some frequently asked questions about dating Astarion:

1. What are the requirements to romance Astarion? To romance Astarion, you need to gain his approval ahead of the refugee celebration, which occurs after completing the Save the Refugees side-quest, by supporting his desires and being supportive of his nature and condition.
2. How do I know if I’m in a relationship with Astarion? You will know you are in a relationship with Astarion when he approaches you in camp with his confession scene in Act 2, and a kissing line appears every time you talk to him.
3. Is there only one opportunity to romance Astarion? As of Act 1, there is only one opportunity to get involved with Astarion romantically and carnally, which occurs during the celebration at the end of Act 1.
4. How do I get Astarion’s approval? The player does not have to be “evil” to gain his approval; he approves when the player makes choices that support independence and autonomy and when the player helps certain characters in need.
5. Should you let Astarion bite you? Accepting Astarion’s bite improves the protagonist’s relationship with him and can lead to a deeper bond, but refusing it only results in a minor setback.
6. How do you get Astarion to confess his feelings? To trigger Astarion’s romance scene in Act 3, you must have finished his companion quest, which involves taking down his master Cazador.
7. Can you romance Astarion if you don’t sleep with him? You don’t need to sleep with him at the party; if you get his approval high enough, he’ll proposition you on his own at some point during Act 1 when you talk to him.
8. How much approval do you need to romance Astarion? “Fair” approval is good enough to start the romance at the tiefling party later on if you make the right choices at the party itself.
9. Why does Astarion not want me? Astarion dislikes displays of weakness and does not like acts of kindness or charity that offer no reward; he disapproves when the player tries to reign him in or restrict him in some way.
10. How high does Astarion’s approval need to be? Astarion’s approval needs to be 61+ (Very High) to persuade him.
11. Should I ask Astarion about his scars? You should always ask Astarion about his scar for the scar-reading scene to appear.
12. Can you romance Astarion and Karlach? While Karlach is incapable of being in a physically intimate relationship with players, she is open to players having intimate relationships with others, most likely Astarion.
13. What happens if you don’t recruit Astarion? If you don’t recruit Astarion, he just loiters around the Nautiloid wreck indefinitely until you either come back for him or clear Act 2 and lose access to those areas.
14. Does Astarion tell you he loves you? Even when he’s offering to make you a vampire, he tells you that he loves you, but in such a way that you know it’s just words, and he doesn’t mean it.
15. Can you romance Astarion and be good? It is possible to achieve what some would consider a good ending with Astarion, but it comes with its own baggage, and the good variation of the ending is still troubling regardless of the choices made.