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Marrying Married Sims: A Comprehensive Guide to Matrimony and Mayhem in The Sims 4

So, you’ve set your sights on a Sim who’s already hitched? Love (and gameplay) knows no bounds in The Sims 4, and while it might take a bit of maneuvering, breaking up is definitely something you can do. The direct path to marrying a married Sim involves either convincing the Sim to divorce their current spouse or, if you’re feeling particularly dramatic, removing the spouse from the equation entirely. Let’s delve into the details of both approaches.

The Path to Separation: Convincing Your Sim’s Love Interest to Divorce

This method is the most straightforward and, arguably, the least morally questionable (at least by Sim standards). It involves building a strong relationship with the married Sim and using that bond to influence their decision.

Building the Foundation: Romantic Relationship

First and foremost, you need to establish a romantic relationship with the Sim you desire. Here’s how:

Initiate Interactions: Start with friendly interactions like “Chat,” “Compliment Appearance,” or “Tell Joke.”
Flirty Interactions: Once the relationship reaches a certain level (Friend or Good Friend), begin using flirty interactions. These include “Flirt,” “Give Flowers,” “Give Romantic Gift,” and “Compliment Personality.”
Monitor Relationship Status: Keep an eye on the relationship panel. You need to achieve a “Romantic Interest” status to unlock the crucial “Ask to Break Up” interaction.
Maintain High Mood: Ensure both Sims are in a positive mood to increase the success rate of romantic interactions. Use mood-boosting objects and activities.

The Ultimate Persuasion: Asking for a Breakup

Once you’ve achieved “Romantic Interest” status, the “Ask to Break Up” interaction will become available.

Locate the Interaction: Click on the married Sim, select “Romantic,” and then look for the “Ask to Break Up With…” option.
High Relationship Required: A high relationship level is crucial for success. If the relationship isn’t strong enough, the Sim might refuse, damaging your relationship.
Consider Personality: Some Sims are more loyal than others. Their traits might make them more resistant to leaving their spouse.
Success!: If successful, the married Sim will break up with their spouse. Now you’re free to pursue a relationship and eventually marriage!

The More… Direct Approach: Household Management and Beyond

This method is less about convincing and more about controlling. It involves moving Sims between households and, in some cases, taking more drastic measures. Note: This method can feel a bit like cheating and is not for the faint of heart.

Moving Sims into Your Household

Friendly Relations: Build a friendly relationship with both the Sim you want to marry and their spouse.
Invite to Household: Ask the spouse to move into your household. This can be done through the “Ask to Move In” interaction after establishing a friendship.
Control is Yours: Once the spouse is in your household, you have complete control over their actions.

Dealing with Unwanted Spouses: Extreme Measures (Use with Caution!)

This is where things get… interesting. The Sims 4 offers various ways to remove a Sim from existence, though many consider these methods unethical.

Accidents Happen: Sims can die from various accidents, such as electrocution while repairing appliances, drowning in the pool (remove the ladder!), or being burned by a fire.
Old Age: Time marches on for everyone, even Sims. Simply letting the Sim live out their natural lifespan is a valid, albeit slow, option.
Emotional Extremes: Certain emotional states, like being extremely angry or embarrassed, can lead to death if not managed.
Starvation: Neglecting a Sim’s needs can ultimately lead to starvation. Ensure they don’t have access to food.
Moving Out: The quickest and least morbid solution is simply to move the unwanted spouse out of the active household. You can then move them into their own home, or leave them homeless in the world.
Important Consideration: Remember, these methods can affect the mood and relationships of other Sims in the household. Be prepared for grief and negative moodlets.

The Final Step: Marriage

Once the spouse is out of the picture, you’re free to pursue a relationship and marriage with your desired Sim.

Romantic Progress: Continue building a romantic relationship using the methods described earlier.
Propose Engagement: When the relationship is high enough, the “Propose Engagement” interaction will become available.
Wedding Time!: After a successful proposal, you can plan a wedding party or simply elope.

Additional Tips and Considerations

Traits Matter: Pay attention to the traits of all Sims involved. Some traits make them more resistant to certain interactions.
Mood is Key: Ensure all Sims are in a positive mood to increase the success rate of interactions.
Relationship Decay: Relationships can decay over time if not maintained. Regularly interact with your Sims to keep their relationships strong.
Modding: The Sims community is vast and creative. Mods can offer alternative ways to influence relationships and marriages, including options for polygamy.
Storytelling: Remember that The Sims is a storytelling game. Have fun with the drama and create interesting narratives.

Final Thoughts

Marrying a married Sim in The Sims 4 can be a complex and sometimes ethically ambiguous process. Whether you choose the path of persuasion or the path of… other means… remember to have fun and create a story that you enjoy. After all, it’s just a game!

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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

Here are 15 frequently asked questions to further clarify the intricacies of marrying married Sims:

1. Can a Sim get married twice?

Yes, Sims can get married multiple times. After a divorce or the death of their spouse, they are free to remarry.

2. Can you have 2 spouses in Sims 4 without mods?

No, without mods, Sims can only be married to one Sim at a time. The game does not support polygamous marriages in the base game.

3. How do I get my Sims married again after a divorce?

To remarry a divorced Sim, click on them, initiate friendly and then flirty interactions, and eventually propose engagement again.

4. How do you convince a Sim to leave their spouse in Sims 4?

Build a high romantic relationship with the married Sim and use the “Ask to Break Up” interaction, which appears under the romantic interactions.

5. Can your Sim marry a married Sim without mods?

Yes, but you must first convince the married Sim to divorce their current spouse. Then, you can proceed with proposing engagement.

6. Why can’t I marry in Sims 4?

Possible reasons include: the Sim is already married or engaged, the relationship level is too low, or there are conflicting traits or mood issues.

7. Can your Sims be polyamorous in the vanilla version of the game?

Without mods, polygamy is not possible in The Sims 4. Sims are limited to one romantic partner at a time in a committed relationship.

8. Can two females WooHoo in Sims 4?

Yes, The Sims 4 allows Sims of any gender to WooHoo with each other, reflecting the game’s commitment to inclusivity.

9. Can Sims be in more than one relationship simultaneously?

Sims can have multiple boyfriends or girlfriends concurrently, as long as they aren’t caught being affectionate with multiple partners on the same lot. However, they can only have one spouse or fiancé(e) at a time.

10. Can a married Sim have a boyfriend?

Yes, a married Sim can have a boyfriend, but it will be considered cheating, and other Sims may react negatively if they witness the infidelity.

11. Can a married Sim propose to another Sim?

No, a married Sim cannot propose engagement to another Sim until they are divorced.

12. Can Sims marry their second cousins?

Yes, the game allows Sims to marry second cousins and beyond. Closer relatives will only have friendly or confrontational interactions available.

13. Why can’t my married Sims try for a baby?

Reasons can include: having more than eight Sims on the lot, the Sims being outside of the Young Adult or Adult life stages, or a bug in the game.

14. What happens if you have a baby with a married Sim?

The baby becomes part of the mother’s household. The husband of the mother may or may not find out about the affair, depending on the circumstances and any mods installed.

15. Do Sims’ last names change when they get married?

No, the names do not automatically change after marriage. You must manually change the Sim’s name if desired.

How do you marry a SIM who is already married?