Can You Have a Wife and a Girlfriend at the Same Time in Stardew Valley?
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The short answer is yes, you can have a wife and a girlfriend (or multiple girlfriends/boyfriends) simultaneously in Stardew Valley. However, this comes with some interesting in-game consequences and nuances that every aspiring virtual Casanova should be aware of. Stardew Valley allows you to date multiple villagers concurrently, even while married. It’s not about having a traditional “wife” and “girlfriend” as separate roles but rather about maintaining relationships with multiple marriage candidates while also being married to one. Let’s dive deeper into the mechanics and implications.
The Mechanics of Dating and Marriage
In Stardew Valley, you build relationships with the eligible bachelors and bachelorettes by giving them gifts, engaging in conversations, and completing quests. Once you reach eight hearts with a villager, you can give them a bouquet, which signifies your intention to date them. This officially makes them your boyfriend or girlfriend. You can date as many people as you like this way.
When you reach ten hearts with a villager, you can propose marriage by giving them a Mermaid’s Pendant. If they accept, you will get married a few days later and they’ll move into your farmhouse. This doesn’t end any of your other dating relationships. You can be married and continue dating other villagers.
The Infamous “Dating Everyone” Cutscene
There’s a very particular event that can happen if you are dating all the marriage candidates at once. Once you have all the available singles at 10 hearts and are dating them, you’ll trigger a cutscene at the Stardrop Saloon where all of them confront you. This is sometimes referred to as the “group dating” cutscene. This has significant negative consequences: all of the characters involved in this cutscene have their friendship level decreased substantially, meaning you will have to work hard to rebuild them. This consequence applies whether you are married or not.
Jealousy in Marriage
While you can date multiple people while married, your spouse will react jealously if they see you giving gifts to a dating partner of the same gender as them. This jealousy will decrease their friendship points with you and results in an angry dialogue the next time you speak with them. The chance of your spouse getting jealous fluctuates between 20 and 40%, depending on your daily luck. This is a unique consequence only affecting married relationships and is an interesting dynamic of married life in Stardew Valley.
Key Takeaways
- You can date multiple people while married: There’s no in-game limitation preventing you from having a spouse and several boyfriends/girlfriends.
- Dating all at once triggers a cutscene: Dating all the marriage candidates will result in a group confrontation, causing significant friendship loss.
- Spouses get jealous: Gifting someone of the same gender as your spouse will anger them and negatively impact your relationship.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) About Dating and Marriage in Stardew Valley
1. Can I have two spouses in Stardew Valley?
No, you can only be married to one person at a time in Stardew Valley. You can date as many people as you want while being married to a single spouse, but only one person can live in your house as your husband or wife.
2. What happens if I divorce my spouse?
If you divorce your spouse by visiting the Mayor’s house, you’ll have to pay 50,000 gold for the divorce. Your ex-spouse will move out, and all the items they had in their room will be placed in a chest the day after. They will lose all memory of your marriage, allowing you to potentially date and remarry them if you choose.
3. Can I remarry my ex-spouse?
Yes, since your ex-spouse loses all memory of your marriage after the divorce, you can rebuild your relationship with them, date them again, and eventually remarry them.
4. What happens if I date someone the same gender as my spouse?
If you give a gift to someone you’re dating who is the same gender as your spouse, your spouse might get jealous. This results in a decrease in friendship points.
5. Does the bouquet disappear after I get married?
No, the bouquet will remain in your inventory even after you get married. The person you are dating will still be labeled as single in their social information, because you are otherwise officially occupied.
6. What are the benefits of being married in Stardew Valley?
A happy spouse can help around the farm by watering crops, feeding animals, making breakfast, and repairing fences. A happy spouse also has a maximum of 14 hearts.
7. Can I have children in Stardew Valley?
Yes, you can have up to two children with your spouse after reaching max hearts with them. They will appear some time after your spouse reaches 14 hearts.
8. Can I remove my children from my Stardew Valley farm?
Yes, after a divorce, you can choose to turn your children into doves at the Witch’s Hut for a Prismatic Shard.
9. Can I have a roommate in Stardew Valley while married?
No, you cannot have a roommate if you are married. You can choose to either be married or have Krobus as a roommate, but not both.
10. Who are the most popular marriage candidates in Stardew Valley?
Some of the most popular marriage candidates include Abigail, Leah, and Emily, known for their unique personalities and traits.
11. Who is the easiest person to marry in Stardew Valley?
Leah is often considered one of the easiest to marry due to her love for foraged items, which are easy to obtain.
12. Who is the hardest person to marry in Stardew Valley?
Haley is often considered the hardest due to her initially rude and snobbish personality, which makes it more challenging to build a strong relationship.
13. Is there a penalty for dating everyone?
Yes, there is a significant penalty. Triggering the “group dating” cutscene causes a major friendship decrease with all the involved bachelors and bachelorettes.
14. What happens after I reach max hearts with my spouse?
After reaching max hearts (14) with your spouse, they will continue to help around the farm, and you have the chance to have children with them.
15. Are there characters I cannot date in Stardew Valley?
Yes, there are several characters that cannot be dated, including Sandy, Gus, Jodi, Demetrius, Marnie, Pierre, Robin, and Clint. These characters can only be befriended.
Conclusion
While the concept of having a wife and girlfriend simultaneously in Stardew Valley may sound like a recipe for disaster, the game allows for it with certain mechanics and consequences. It’s up to each player to decide how they will navigate the complex relationship landscape of the valley. Whether you’re looking for a fun, chaotic playthrough or are aiming for a stable, loving relationship, Stardew Valley has got you covered.