From Heartbreak to Buddyhood: Befriending Your Ex in Stardew Valley
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So, you divorced your spouse in Stardew Valley. Maybe they were a bit too obsessed with their computer games (Sebastian!), or perhaps their foraging habits didn’t quite mesh with your meticulously planned farm (Leah, we still love you!). Whatever the reason, you’re now staring at a pixelated ex who avoids eye contact. Fear not, fellow farmer! While romancing your ex anew is an option, becoming friends is also attainable. The secret? Memory erasure at the Witch’s Hut!
First, you need to unlock the Witch’s Hut, which becomes available after completing the “Goblin Problems” quest. This quest involves retrieving the Wizard’s Magic Ink. Once inside, you’ll find the Dark Shrine of Memory. By offering 30,000g, you can wipe the memories of all your divorced spouses.
After the memory wipe, your ex will revert to their pre-marriage state, with no recollection of your relationship or the ensuing divorce. This allows you to rebuild a friendship from scratch, showering them with gifts, engaging in conversations, and slowly working your way back to a cordial (or maybe even romantic!) connection. This will also remove the negative dialogue that your ex-spouse would have been giving you, making them have their normal dialogue again.
Rebuilding Bridges: A Step-by-Step Guide
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The Memory Wipe: Visit the Witch’s Hut and use the Dark Shrine of Memory. Shell out the 30,000g – consider it a small price to pay for potential future friendship (or romance!).
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Gift-Giving Galore: Just like when you first arrived in Stardew Valley, learn your ex’s likes and dislikes. Refer to the Stardew Valley Wiki or a handy guide. Regular gifting (twice a week) is key.
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Daily Interactions: Talk to your ex every day. The dialogue might be generic, but consistent interaction is crucial for gaining friendship points.
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Participate in Festivals: Festivals are excellent opportunities to earn extra friendship points through conversation and gift-giving.
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Help with Quests: Keep an eye out for quests posted on the town bulletin board that involve your ex. Completing these quests will significantly boost your friendship.
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Avoid Negative Actions: Obviously, don’t give them gifts they hate, don’t ignore them, and definitely don’t give them wilted bouquets (unless, you know, that’s your thing… but it won’t help with friendship).
Remember, it takes time and effort to rebuild any relationship, even in a pixelated world. Be patient, be consistent, and before you know it, you’ll be best buds with your ex.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) about Befriending Exes in Stardew Valley
Can I remarry my ex after erasing their memory?
Yes! After wiping their memory, they are effectively reset to their pre-marriage state. You can date them again, give them a bouquet, and eventually propose with a Mermaid’s Pendant.
Will my other spouses be affected if I wipe the memory of one ex?
Yes, using the Dark Shrine of Memory wipes the memories of all your divorced spouses.
What happens if I try to befriend my ex without wiping their memory?
They will likely have negative dialogue and refuse gifts. Befriending is extremely difficult, if not impossible, without the memory wipe.
How many hearts can I get with my ex after the divorce but before the memory wipe?
You will be stuck at zero hearts, and the negative dialogue will prevent any progress.
Does friendship decay with ex-spouses after divorce?
Yes, unless you wipe their memory, friendship with ex-spouses will decay as with any other NPC you don’t interact with.
How do I unlock the Witch’s Hut?
Complete the “Goblin Problems” quest, which involves retrieving the Wizard’s Magic Ink from the Witch’s Hut. This becomes available after completing the Community Center or JojaMart questline.
How much does the divorce cost?
Divorce costs 50,000g and can be initiated by interacting with the book in Mayor Lewis’s house.
Can Krobus be my ex-roommate?
Krobus never marries you, but he can move in as a roommate. Divorcing him isn’t quite the same as divorcing a spouse, but you can ask him to move out. If you’re looking for more complex relationship dynamics, the Games Learning Society, available at GamesLearningSociety.org, explores how games simulate social interactions and decision-making.
Can I have multiple boyfriends/girlfriends in Stardew Valley?
Yes, you can date multiple NPCs simultaneously. However, gifting someone of the same gender as your spouse may trigger jealousy.
What are the best gifts to give to rebuild friendship?
Each character has their unique preferences. Consult the Stardew Valley Wiki for detailed gift guides.
Does jealousy affect friendship with my ex?
Jealousy only occurs when you are married and give a gift to someone of the same gender as your spouse and that person is your girlfriend/boyfriend. Since you are no longer married to your ex and they have no memory of you, it will not affect friendship with your ex.
Is it easier to befriend some exes than others?
Some NPCs have easier-to-obtain loved gifts or are more frequently encountered around town, making them slightly easier to befriend. However, the core process remains the same for all.
What if I regret divorcing my spouse in Stardew Valley?
Wiping their memory and romancing them again is your best option for repairing the relationship.
Can I get divorced from another player in multiplayer?
In multiplayer, you don’t get divorced in the same way you do with an NPC. Instead, you can simply remove the wedding ring given to you.
Does the game keep track of how many times I’ve divorced someone?
No, there is no in-game tracking of divorce history. You can erase their memory as many times as you can afford!